Happy bear-thday! (Friday link ups)


We are exactly 2 days away from the Bear's birthday.  I. Cannot. Believe. It. What a great year; parenting is way more than I ever thought it could be.  I'll reserve my gushy thoughts for my 1 year letter to the little man.  But TODAY, I bring you 5 bits of randomness just for fun. 1. The "bear-thday" party decor is done.   My house has been decorated for a few days at the Continue Reading

My Coffee Shop Confession (Guest Post)

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So excited for Tammy of Blithe, a blog, to guest post today.  She is such a gifted writer and she is so incredibly inspiring.  I hope you love her words as much as I do! My Coffee Shop Confession It was over the best (although semi-cold) latte ever and a laptop that wouldn't stay charged (unless it was plugged in at all times) that I confessed to a random stranger one of the greatest Continue Reading

What I worried about before I gave birth…


irWe have officially entered Little Bear's birthday week...which means it has been a year since I gave birth to my first child. Part of my disbelief at this year marker is the fact that I...gave birth. And it was a year ago. And I have extremely salient memories as if I live somewhere inside of the delivery room at all times. My husband likes to laugh and suggest that I was like Brooklyn Continue Reading

5 easy steps to go overboard in birthday party planning

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When little Bear was around 3 weeks old, I sat in the cozy gray glider in the corner of his nursery at some God-forsaken hour in the middle of the night. As I rocked with my little guy, I began to think about--his first birthday party. I started a secret board pinning dozens of images for the brown bear theme that I was dreaming about in my head. It all seemed quite magical.  And Continue Reading

It’s not your fault


You woke up this morning with joyful anticipation--hoping to see that little pink plus sign. You've been trying to have a baby for what feels like your entire life. You've wondered if you'll be buying little pink bows or tiny blue bow ties.  After viewing the endless stream of proud parents litter your Facebook newsfeed for a few years, you're ready to have a few pictures to post yourself.  You Continue Reading

Hypopcricy: mixed messages in pop culture

If you watched the 2015 Grammys, you will remember this message from President Obama President Obama urges us fervently to ban together in opposition to domestic abuse and in support of the victims of sex exploitation. "Together we can change our culture for the better by ending violence against women and girls...1 and 5 women are victims of rape or attempted rape, and 1 and 4 women has Continue Reading

The mommy syndrome: why Badalyan did the best she could


It only took me a year to surrender my little dog, Lola. I had gotten her as a gift from a college boyfriend; she stayed with me long after he and I had our final goodbyes. We lied when we adopted her, telling the agency that she would be staying in a large backyard with room to run. Instead, Lola lived most of her life with me in a crate college duplex.  She and I would go walking a few Continue Reading

A Note to my son at 11 months

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Dear Bennett, I'm finding it difficult to believe that you are almost a year old. On this day last year, we took photos of you in my big belly.   Thirty six weeks of pregnancy can do a number on mommies.  I kept it together for the most part, though admittedly, I cried a time or two in public. The day I found out that you were on the way, I began to write you notes.  Writing Continue Reading

5 truly gratuitous items that may make you look like you care about the Super Bowl

  The Super Bowl is upon us. Ehem--I mean--the big game.  I hope I don't get fined for that; I don't have that kind of money (and I'm not that big of a deal). So, admittedly, I haven't truly cared about the outcome of a 'big game' since 1998, and I was sorely disappointed. So usually, by the time the second round of the playoffs arrives--I'm pretty done with football. Bitterness can Continue Reading

To my sleep-trained baby

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Ok...ok, so I realize I wrote a letter yesterday.  Let me preface with a disclaimer. This particular post is not intended to mommy-shame.  It is a response to the shame that has been cast in my--and other sleep-training mommies-- direction. It is a simple response to a very guilt laden letter from a sleep-training baby. And let me tell you--this particular baby is preeetty manipulative. And Continue Reading